Friendships: Soo goood, sooo hard

As I am growing with experiences and age my friendships are changing too. It's certainly a transition; back in school days friendship mean't something else and now it gives a new meaning.

Currently, everyone of us is soul searching, chasing dreams and creating a strong social presence without losing our ground. This is the time when we are becoming more comfortable within our own skin and opening up to people with a sense of unknowing trust.

But, Friendship can be selfish too...yes, that's the hard part of it. The moment we stop getting what we want out of it, we can choose to walk away. That's called letting go too easily in my mind.

Just like any relationship, a friendship has the same elements: love, hate, distance, closeness, anger, sadness, laughter and tears. It is an emotional journey, one, that everyone should choose to imbibe on.

But, just like people fight for love, is it equally important to fight for friendship too? Is it necessary to not let go of your friends so easily?

Yes, to some extent I agree, If you have an inner circle of friends that stand by you in good and tough times then yes.

It is an amazing feeling to be secure in something as important and life-giving as friendship, to know that your relationship is not dependent upon your capacity to always do the right things or say the right words; to always be calm and be diplomatic in short. This is the good part of friendship.

Given the good and bad, both facets of friendship....is it really important to fight for it?

Considering the good times, bad times, the emotional times, the silly times...and all other times where you can just be yourself and flaunt your personality without regret....be accepted with your flaws within your inner circle...yes it's worth to fight for this kind of a friendship.

Anything, less than that is not a friend for me....either you choose to be one way or the other...there is no middle ground that exists.

My friends are my souvenirs of life and I choose to fight for everyone of them. As long as they wish to tolerate me willingly we will continue to share a pleasant space and be bounded by our hearts.

Sun-kissed Sincity

During the busiest time of the year, when you pack your bags, steal your own passport, quietly lock your house and hastily catch a cab to the airport you know you are on your way to a secret adventure in the middle of nowhere.

Now, the question is where would you go for a "secret adventure"? Where would be the middle of nowhere?

Well, it happens to be that it's a place, any place that fuels happy memories and feeds the senses. That place....my dirty little secret lies in the city:  Las Vegas, Nevada. 

This city has a halo effect, but, combined with a devlish soul, a soul that lures you into temptations, cremates your inner barriers and helps illuminate yourself and spark your wit amid the flashy lights. It sounds emotionally exhausting yet promising.

You can choose to get lost in the haze of the city, or choose to let loose and find your self. 

You would think, this is a vast desert of nothingness....but when you find yourself walking down the hot and humid streets you feel like you're looking at countries that have no borders and that stand united. If you find yourself on the 60th floor of some glamorous looking building, you would think you're looking at the earth from the universe. 

New York, Paris, Greece, Spain, LA, Egypt, Florida, Rome, Italy...*sigh*....it's a one-ticket world trip affair to embark on.

When it's dark we tend to generally think it's time to relax, unwind and eventually go to sleep. That depicts routine. But, when you are in a city that never sleeps, you do what the "Las Vegasians" do.

Yea, that's right...what's day and what's night, this city lives, lives everyday and beats like an unstoppable heartbeat. 

Party is just one facet of this city. This city allures you. Lit up city lights and some frenzy with your buddies is the true essence of happiness in this city. Shopping, themed dining, posh pubs, snazzy cars, luxurious spas, all act as a generous gift to the city. You can walk through these carved paths for miles and miles and never find yourself bored with the consequences. 

Just to make it a bit more cliche..."Whatever happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" *shhhhhhhh....*

This trip certainly adds to my list of precious souvenirs of life. This is a place where you explore your friends, you explore yourself, and you explore the meaning of life. 

Mitt gaya jab mitne wala,
Phir salam aaya toh kya aaya.
Dil ki barbaadi ke baad
Unka payaam aaya,
Toh kya aaya...

-- Annonymous

By Sandeep Singh

Safar.....:  Mujhe khushi ka hamesha dhokha sa raha hai......mere andhar kuch na kuch jalta sa raha hai"

Time to be happy

We all come into this world with a destiny of our own and an agenda that we are required to live upto no matter what choices we make. Sometimes time gives us a chance and sometimes we give time a chance to lead our lives to where they need to be. We all live in a certain time frame, and we all have our death clocks ticking. In every few heartbeats we loose each minute of our life.

Time will keep ticking and our life will keep deteriorating, and it is upto us to live, live every second of it. We set the value of our worth into this world and it is our responsibility to make sure that we live every minute of our life being happy.

If it was to boil down to statistics and graphing analysis, I would certainly conclude that life is a downward facing curve, the more the time passes the less years we have to be happy. But, what we can maintain at a constant is our curve of happiness.

Every human should work towards maintaining their curve at a constant. In the end 80 or maybe 100 years down the road, on your death bed, you want to walk down the memory lane with a feeling of contempt that you didn't waste all those minutes or seconds of your life trying to keep someone else's curve of happiness constant.

I am not saying that giving happiness to others is not possible or that its a bad thing, but, tilting the angle of your curve at the cost of it is not applicable. Yes, it might sound selfish, but this is reality. You can only actually control your curve, within the constraints life puts you into. The moment you let other people's curve interfere with yours (intersect), its a downfall.

Two people whether in any sort of relationship should ideally have curves that are parallel to each other or upward sloping, if not, ones' happiness would be interrelated and interdependent to the others'.

Just to make it a bit cliche...learn to LIVE your own life, and try to take an overdose of happiness each day.

It is never too toxic to be Happoholic.

Wise words

“When I was young I asked more of people than they could give: everlasting friendship, endless feeling.
Now I know to ask less of them than they can give: a straightforward companionship.
And their feelings, their friendship, their generous actions seem in my eyes to be wholly miraculous: a consequence of grace alone.”

Albert Camus

Dard

Kehte hain ki....

"Sacche usulo pe zindagi jeena itna aasaan nahi hota,

Aur bina sangharsh ke koi maan nahi hota,

Jab tak na pade patthar pe hatode ki choth,

Tab tak patthar bhi bhagwan nahi hota"

Jab tak na pade dil ko choth koi kisi ke kaam nahi aata...koi kisi ke saath nahi aata.

No matter when we are happy or sad, we count on people to share our emotions. Whether its making us feel light hearted or feeding our ego, we indulge in it consciously inspite of knowing that we have come into the world alone and have to leave the world alone. Life goes on...the show must go on.

Just like Jagjit Singh says... 

Shehad jeene ka mila kar thoda thoda
Jaanewaalon ke liyein dil nahin tohda karte...